what were some film scenes that pleased or horrified you so much that they stayed vivid in your memory for a long time?
the one i always recall is the scene where anthony hopkins (playing as hannibal lector) lobotomised ray liotta (paul krendler) cutting off pieces of his brain and giving them to him to eat.
he also took some of liotta's cooked brain in a plane and gave them to an unsuspecting passenger boy sitting next to him to eat.
I'd have to say the last movie that affected me was Braveheart when they were doing the execution. I forgot to breathe the whole time.
Sitting next to my very scottish mother who kept poking me in the ribs telling me "there's your heritage" during all the other scenes was pretty helpful as well.
SK
i think there's been a thread on this before, but i figured i'd ask again.. for all of the ubms out there, why is it that we love witnesses??
what is it about them that we find so attractive??
why are we putting ourselves through this mess when we know full-well that there are lots of non-jws out there who would be better for us??.
One of my new ones is imagining the conversation I will have someday where I have to apologize to my children for the incredibly awful choice I made in picking their mother.
Oh yea...
SK
i think there's been a thread on this before, but i figured i'd ask again.. for all of the ubms out there, why is it that we love witnesses??
what is it about them that we find so attractive??
why are we putting ourselves through this mess when we know full-well that there are lots of non-jws out there who would be better for us??.
I am sure this guy has some great qualities. But he also would let your kids die if they needed blood. You can go easy on yourself by reminding yourself that it is very unlikely to happen. But that is irrelevant. The fact is that is the choice he would make, and you can't deny all that implies about him. He would be a threat to your children Becka. Anything else he is, is irrelevant.
Me again. I agree 100% with CYP. Sure my ex and I had our problems, mostly with communication. I wish I would have done things different in regards to finding out for myself, first hand, why his parents didn't want anything to do with me instead of taking his word for it. Looking more into what it meant to be a JW instead of waiting until it became a threat to my son. Hindsight is 20/20 and I can't get that back. Would things have been different?? Maybe...that would be my "what if".
My son needed tubes in his ears. Hardly an invasive procedure but up until the day of, my ex did nothing as respects making appointments, dealing with ear infections, filling out paperwork, insurance, etc. NOTHING. The day of the surgery they handed me a clipboard with add'l paperwork to fill out and it came to the blood question. Standard question. He snatched the clipboard out of my hands & filled in "NO" to the question. Without so much as a "how do you feel about this?" to me. That is the reality....here was his 2 year old son, about to undergo surgery and no matter what, he wasn't getting blood...regardless of what his mother thought. Granted, the blood issue is really non-existant when getting tubes in your ears but what if it were something more? This man was making a decision regarding his child without taking into consideration the feelings of ME his mother or even the life of his own child. Jerk.
Fast forward 3 years...custody in place, rules in place....I have final say in all medical (and blood) issues, but do you think that will stop him?Of course not. God forbid something should happen to my son while he's in his father's care and would require blood. I'd get the phone call way too late. THIS is what I think about every day I watch my baby leave with his father. It's amazing how fast things change.
I've said it before, good for you for doing your research now. Better now than later!
SK
i think there's been a thread on this before, but i figured i'd ask again.. for all of the ubms out there, why is it that we love witnesses??
what is it about them that we find so attractive??
why are we putting ourselves through this mess when we know full-well that there are lots of non-jws out there who would be better for us??.
I fell in love with my JW before I had an inkling as to what being a JW meant. It had nothing to do with his beliefs. He was a great person, knew how to make me feel like I was the only one in the world worth having, could sell ice cubes to the eskimo's he could. I didn't love him because he was a witness, again that had nothing to do with my feelings for him. I loved him because of who he was at the time. I wouldn't have traded him in for anything.
Until now....now my feelings towards him have changed. All the things I could have learned & learned too late, and we have a son together. So now I'm learning not only from research, but from my son as well. The good side?? My son has what his father never had, and that is another opinion on life, someone to encourage him to question what he learns instead of accepting it as gospel. My ex is seeing a whole new side of me, one that isn't falling for his charm anymore and one that does stand up to him & his "charm". Who does he call when wifey kicked him to the curb and life has him down? That's right!
Of course my ex did rebel "against the system" later in life otherwise this would all be moot. He did go against his beliefs, got away from it and lived a life that he enjoyed. Until I got pregnant, then it all came down...kinda like a pink elephant.
I don't think you can help who you fall in love with, religion or not, that's the kind of person you attract and the kind of person you want to be with. Simple as pie.....not.
SK
dana reeve, the widow of actor christopher reeve, died today of lung cancer at age 44. she was such a selfless, positive person.
my heart goes out to her family.
christopher reeve's widow dies at age 44by associated press.
It's terrible news....I feel for their son
SK
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i'm fed up of winter, and dirty yucky snow, and my car is full of sh*t salt.. so, today i washed it by hand.
it's red and shinny
SO ready!!
As I sit here & see nothing but white snowflakes obscuring my view of spring......no more snow!!!!!!
SK
just wondering who else is lurking besides me?
Not a Dub and never will be!! I have a son with a former JW who then decided to go back. This has been a great source of insight & info for me.
Thanks to all!
SK
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autistic basketball player creates mayhem at game .
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ubypanc57ik.
oh great...blubbering like a baby at work
That was awesome!! Thanks!
i am going to reveal details of a personal nature here.
these details may reveal who i am to anyone looking to finally expel me from the organization - but frankly that it of little importance compared to what i am now having to decide.
i ask those who here - with either the qualifications, or who can direct me to those with such, to respond.
If you have legal custody, the FIRST thing you should do is contact your attorney. No way this guy should be allowed to disrupt the life you are providing for your grandchildren (good for you) without some sort of committment from him. The laws are now leaning towards fathers' rights however, and if he is sincere, I would make sure you have your ducks in a row. He will have to establish paternity first and his motives for this sudden desire to see his son, then work out arrangements with YOU for visitation. You can then request supervised visitation at first, nothing wrong with that, but I agree, don't let him in your house. I was advised at the beginning of my custody case that without custody established, if my ex were to take our son out of the country or refuse to return him during one of his visits, it would be difficult to get him back, as he was his legal father. Get the paternity established first before you decide on any type of visitation!
As for the girls, explain to them that the fact their BSD (as I refer to my own daughters "father") were not ready for the responsibility of fatherhood. It wasn't their fault it was a decision that they made. Assure them that you love them and their mother loves them and no matter what you will be there for them. My daughter recently went thru this with her own BSD and after getting his address & whatnot, decided she did not want to talk to him. She feels (she's 16 now) that it was his choice, and it was a bad one for him in her opinion, why should she bother now. She may change her mind, who knows. She does have the benefit of knowing who he is and how to get in contact with him, not sure if you have that available.
I'm sorry you are going thru this, but I applaud you for taking care of your grandkids, you're amazing in my book.
SK
what sends shivers down your spine like the good ole "nails on a chaulkboard"?
things people do, say or don't do or say.
basically what really pisses you off.. df.
When you are having a conversation with someone and another person comes up & joins in/comments "who did that?" "why did you do that?". Makes me crazy...if I wanted to talk to you I'd invite you!
Different if you're at a party or something, but when someone passing by hears something, and decides to jump in your conversation & interject their opinion. This usually only happens in my office....and usually has nothing to do with you so butt out!
SK
